Developing a Personal Relationship with the Divine

To enter into any relationship, you’d have to agree that the first step is to have the desire to be in a relationship. If your heart is not in the relationship, it’s not going to work because by their very nature, relationships are heart centered. To have a successful relationship, you’d want to be clear on what you want in that relationship, as well as who you are willing to be or become—after all, a relationship is a partnership. It’s a two-way street. In addition, you must believe you are worthy of the relationship you seek, and you must be willing to put in the time and attention to create and nurture it. For example, you can’t have a relationship with somebody for one day and expect them to be there for you all the time. You have to be willing to invest time and energy into creating a loving and trusting bond. To have a relationship with the Divine is no different.

The Divine is an intelligence, a consciousness, and an awareness, and since consciousness is awareness and awareness is paying attention—and paying attention is being present—it is always present with you. As you’ve probably heard me say by now, where you place your attention is where you place your energy, and wherever or whatever you place your attention and energy on expands. So if you put your attention and energy on a relationship with the Divine, then as your attention on it expands, there should be more of its intelligence available to you in your life.

The consciousness of the Divine exists beyond the material world we experience through the senses and therefore, it is an immaterial energy. Since it exists beyond our three-dimensional world of the senses, you can only experience it with your awareness. In other words, you can only become conscious of it. Most people don’t even believe that it’s real, but if you knew it was, you would be more willing to interact with it on a regular basis, would you not? Thus, it begs the question: How much time in your waking day do you put your attention on this invisible intelligence?

Think of the Divine as a great parent that is seeking a relationship with you. But a relationship must be two sided, which means you have to be willing to come to the altar in an elevated state. What does it mean to come to the altar in an elevated state?

When you think of an altar, whether it exists within the four walls of a structure or in the presence of the grandiosity of nature, coming to the altar in an elevated state means you are joyful, grateful, and excited to be in the presence of something greater than you. You are sincerely entering its house with an energy that matches its energy—an energy that is inspired, joyful, willful, conscious, mindful, loving, present, and enthusiastic. It also means you have a desire and a passion to connect with this intelligence, which happens to be a greater mind than your own. As an example, because everyone can relate to having expansive experiences in nature, when you are in the presence of a towering mountain range, the beauty of an ocean, or the infinite night sky, you stand in awe and forget about your fears, limitations, small mindedness, and judgements. You surrender to the beauty and power that shapes beaches, earth, and rock. It is this surrender to love, and this trust in the path of love, that allows growth in relationships.

Just as you say  I want wealth or health—yet walk around in lack, worry, fear, or the disbelief that the possibility of a healthy you exists—you can’t say I want a relationship with the divine and not invest your time and energy into it. Why would this intelligence help you with wealth or health unless you have constructed an idea regarding what kind of wealth and health you want? After all, it is the nature of this intelligence to endorse whoever we are being. If you’re feeling separate from it, impatient, frustrated, and angry, since it honors free will, it says ok, go for it and do it yourself, but I will be here when you are ready to seek me. When you can get out of your own way and stop trying to force outcomes, ask it for help and guidance, and surrender to it and trust its loving intelligence and intelligent love, like water flowing down a mountain, the benevolence of this great parent will find you through the path of least resistance—a path that you have created yourself.

Let’s take this one step further and make it really easy. If you had a great relationship with your mother, and you asked her to make you a sandwich at midnight, would she make it for you? If you were worthy, your mother would think—I love my kid, he/she is on task and doing the right thing, and we have a great relationship. I will make it. She would do this because she loves you, wants to feed you, nurture you, and please you. In other words, the Divine is willing to meet you if you make the effort to be in a healthy relationship with it.

Connection, patience, time, attention, intimacy, vulnerability, surrender, trust—these are all of course other examples of things that make up a relationship. There also has to be love, admiration, presence, a willingness to listen, and patience. There has to be honesty, truthfulness, and a willingness to grow together. Above all else, you have to want it and be passionate about it. Just as all these elements are required to have a relationship with another human being, so too are they required to have a relationship with the Divine.

Every relationship is personal, and your relationship with the divine is no different, so it’s up to you to think about and define all the things you want to invest to make the relationship great. So take some time to figure out what you want, what you’re willing to offer, and who you’re willing to become in this relationship—and don’t forget to keep the dialogue going.



  1. Elisa September 1, 2017 at 10:46 pm - Reply

    Mi piace la tua riflessione di relazione, amore, nutrire e rapporto con il Divino!! Esserci! Abitato del Divino dal tuo essere Divinità! Grazie di non smettere di ricordarcelo…

  2. Barbara Merry Geng September 1, 2017 at 10:56 pm - Reply

    I have been thinking exactly along these lines. I understand that God wants a relationship, not my service, sacrifices, or money. He wants to be in relationship with me. And now, I have to figure out how to be friends with nonphysucal energy. Fingers crossed. I kind of suck at relationships, in general . Let’s see how it goes 😉

  3. Lysiane Fonseca September 1, 2017 at 10:56 pm - Reply

    Dr Joe, you seem to be able to read my mind! Thank you for this wonderful article! Love you!!!

    • Justine December 16, 2017 at 12:14 pm - Reply

      Love the way you make everything easy to understand and interesting. Thank you! ❤️

  4. Alejandra F September 1, 2017 at 11:25 pm - Reply

    Dr. Joe, this is a really nice and clear explanation about how to get a wonderful relationship with the Divine. Thanks so much. Love you ♥️

  5. Elizabeth Davtian September 1, 2017 at 11:45 pm - Reply

    Dr. Joe, your recent book Breaking the Habit of high Yourself has changes my life. I now understand what is happening to me…as it is happening. I now understand the mechanics of why meditation works. It makes so much sense! And having faith is critical. I am so happy I came across it. I listen to it and go back and read it over and over again. You have a new fan. 😉

  6. Sharon Corcoran September 1, 2017 at 11:50 pm - Reply

    So poignant…..definetely something to ponder 💜

  7. Elisa September 2, 2017 at 6:38 am - Reply

    Semplice e grandioso come sempre, Dr Joe. Grazie♡

  8. Roxana September 2, 2017 at 7:21 am - Reply

    Like always you put an the point on “l” in my seeking.
    Thank you💕

  9. Ania September 2, 2017 at 7:29 am - Reply

    Thank you so much it came exactly when I needed to hear it… first thing I saw in the morning :)) See you on Advance Workshop DR. Joe and thank so soooo much <3 Ania from Poland

  10. Claudia September 2, 2017 at 12:18 pm - Reply

    I needed to hear this today now! I am going to work on it. I want this and you helped me understand it 🙂
    Thank you

  11. Ivan September 2, 2017 at 1:31 pm - Reply

    Thanks Maestro.

  12. Leda Lu Muniz September 2, 2017 at 1:42 pm - Reply

    OMG! Thank you ! Getting ou of my own way and old believes! I got it ! I’m in !

  13. Deborah September 2, 2017 at 3:54 pm - Reply

    It’s the truth I believe and makes so much sense my absence and then the distance from my Divine, my Source

  14. Alica September 2, 2017 at 7:59 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much Joe. What a great text and easy to understand! Right to the point! Thank you again!

  15. Terri September 4, 2017 at 5:09 pm - Reply

    Thank you for so clearly defining what it takes to have an amazing relationship with Divinity!

  16. Kenneth JOsten September 6, 2017 at 10:57 am - Reply

    That’s how I feel my love without having the explanation

  17. Eline September 9, 2017 at 6:41 am - Reply

    Tears in my eyes…. Thank you for giving me the words for what I’ve been experiencing these past few months. Love

  18. Kai Shanti September 9, 2017 at 10:28 am - Reply

    Thank you so much Dr. Joe, for becoming, for being who you truly are and allowing us to follow suit. I am so happy to be attending your retreat this coming week! Everything is divinely inspired and I am so happy to BE. Much Love Always, Kai Shanti

  19. Phyllis Foster September 9, 2017 at 10:47 am - Reply

    This was powerful on so many levels as well as a loving reminder that the Divine is always present and always waiting with open arms to welcome us. Beautiful!

  20. Val September 9, 2017 at 10:59 am - Reply

    I love my kid, he/she is on task and doing the right thing, and we have a great relationship. I will make it. She would do this because she loves you, wants to feed you, nurture you, and please you. In other words, the Divine is willing to meet you if you make the effort to be in a healthy relationship with it.

    I love so much of what you wrote, this paragraph though left me with the impression of ” conditional love” . The Divine is unconditional love, it is always unconditionally supporting, nurturing even if I am only able to receive an ounce of the abundance of nurturung and flowing at all times At all times this intelligence moves through my body organizing biological complexities and layers I am unaware of. It is always unconditionally present. My awareness of it’s presence is the condition that limits my experience in the relationship. How much am I willing to allow myself to be aware of.

  21. Tara September 9, 2017 at 11:12 am - Reply

    Eloquently stated thank you.

  22. Bobos September 9, 2017 at 11:54 am - Reply

    Thank you doesn’t seem like enough. You helped me understand oneness more than I ever have.

  23. Evelyn Gauthier September 9, 2017 at 12:03 pm - Reply

    I can touch the edges of the Devine. Now I know I have to do my part to nutture the Devine. Just what I was longing for.

  24. Anneliese September 9, 2017 at 12:13 pm - Reply

    This is so significant! Thank you so much. Please keep writing about it.

  25. Irawatu September 9, 2017 at 1:03 pm - Reply

    Simplicity , truth , love , simple ! . deep gratitude for this eloquent explanation to a question that I was mulling on .. lots of blessings on you .. in. gratitude .. dr joe .. keep shining your special light .. i am in !

  26. Dr. Sima Goel September 9, 2017 at 1:16 pm - Reply

    Thank you for make it so simple. Love it, I am in!

  27. Marsha Gifford September 9, 2017 at 1:24 pm - Reply

    Beautiful and Thank-you.Starting today I am developing a ritual to Honour the Divine.I am surrounded by nature and I give gratitude everyday but I need to develop a more indepth meaning heart deep connection with the Divine.Thank-you for this.I want to print it out and read it everyday .

  28. Christy Gonzalez September 9, 2017 at 1:35 pm - Reply

    Thank you so much for this article, Dr. Joe, developing a relationship with the Divine is the most important relationship of all!

  29. Rocio September 9, 2017 at 2:03 pm - Reply

    I was in this direction feeling when I open this email…sincronicity…Gracias!

  30. Rocio September 9, 2017 at 2:04 pm - Reply

    I was feeling in this direction when I open this email…sincronicity…Gracias!

  31. Kar September 9, 2017 at 3:54 pm - Reply

    Thank you Dr. Joe for eloquently putting into words what I’ve been putting into practice. This article is beautiful. I’m sending it to all of my friends. I started intentionally deepening my relationship to the Divine every day for the past year or so. More recently I came to conclusions about Our relationship and how I need to not force it and listen more closely to what is being given or said to me right Now. On the day of the eclipse I asked for a continued deepening of this connection and through this asking I received a shower of beautiful living, loving energy back- physical confirmation of this awareness, presence and unconditional love. In my daily life mini miracles have happened every day.
    Since then, I’ve used the techniques that you talk about to change habits in my life ….and coupled with my trust in my relationship to the Divine my story has changed in a significant way. Thank you so much for all you bring to the world. Your work is a great gift. ❤️

  32. Viviane September 9, 2017 at 4:13 pm - Reply

    Just what I needed ! I did print it out to read it often. Thank you.

  33. Adwynna MacKenzie September 9, 2017 at 4:39 pm - Reply

    Wow! I was just talking about my mother this morning and how she wants to be “healed” but won’t take even 30 minutes a day to create a relationship with that which would heal her. Then I read this…as always the divine guides me when I ask for help!

  34. Harriette September 9, 2017 at 4:48 pm - Reply

    Oh, Dr. Joe, I do have a relationship with the Devine, only I did not understand it. I feel it. Thank you!

  35. Harriette September 9, 2017 at 4:49 pm - Reply

    Oh, Dr. Joe, I do have a relationship with the Devine, only I did not understand it. I feel it in my bones.
    Thank you!

  36. Lauren Archer September 9, 2017 at 4:58 pm - Reply

    Beautiful inspiration, as usual, Dr. Joe! Sending bright blessings your way!

  37. Elaine September 9, 2017 at 7:34 pm - Reply

    Beautiful. What a sensitive soul you are.

  38. cynthya September 9, 2017 at 11:48 pm - Reply

    Love it, your words are so eloquent, supportive, encouraging, nurturing and full of wisdom. Thank you for being a catalyst in my life. Creating change has become my passion.

  39. Loren September 10, 2017 at 4:31 am - Reply

    I sincerely appreciate you Dr. Joe!

  40. Domenica September 10, 2017 at 5:10 am - Reply

    thank you, Joe….I love you.

  41. Leonor September 10, 2017 at 9:01 am - Reply

    I feel at home.

  42. Betsy Kimmel September 10, 2017 at 9:39 am - Reply

    Beautiful, thank you!

  43. Domenica September 10, 2017 at 10:23 am - Reply

    Thank you Joe, I love you.

  44. Pierre-André September 10, 2017 at 12:06 pm - Reply

    Thank You so much,i try it today.

  45. Roberta Merchant September 10, 2017 at 1:35 pm - Reply

    Dr Joe, Your voice and wisdom comes to me like the Father I never had, perfectly timed as if you are watching over me trying, yet stumbling though my growth, wanting and needing this deeper connection with the Divine,In so gratful for your gift that you keep blessing me with.

  46. Nanette Peraino September 10, 2017 at 1:52 pm - Reply

    That was so eloquently stated and perfect Sunday morning reading. I love my Divine Mother/Father and have come to love my Divine Self, seeking, finding, and growing in love for All That Is. I love your work, Dr. Joe. I love you for all that you stand for. Eternal Blessings.

  47. Barbara Hinz September 10, 2017 at 3:37 pm - Reply

    Thank you for the perfect words to reset my focus and balance. <3

  48. samira chamma September 10, 2017 at 8:33 pm - Reply

    Muito Obrigada!
    You opened my heart a lot !

  49. Nassira September 10, 2017 at 9:53 pm - Reply

    wonderfull. I will print this and study it until it becomes clear for me .

  50. Samantha de Mel September 11, 2017 at 2:50 am - Reply

    Thank you for this beautiful article Dr Joe 💜

  51. Beppy Veer September 11, 2017 at 1:20 pm - Reply

    A quote of you slips through my mind: “How do you experience the Universe? Loving, protecting and kind?” And observing my thoughts I realized the impacts of old assumptions and found new believes and on a deep level, the deep trust. Thank you!

  52. Cat Belue September 11, 2017 at 3:49 pm - Reply

    Thank you again Dr. Joe! I haven’t missed a day meditating since April and after attending your progressive workshop in Portland in July, my life just continues to unfold. I have been able to overcome my anger issues and for the first time in my 50 years of being on this planet, I feel joyful and connected. It is such a gift and I awake every morning eager for my hour plus spent with the Divine. This work has given me more than I ever would have believed. I am so excited to study with you next year at an advanced workshop and have an entire week. My heart is filled with gratitude!!

  53. Geovana Aviles September 11, 2017 at 4:56 pm - Reply

    Working on every day
    Gos Bless You

    I meet you in Mexico last week, I liked the PROGRESIVE so much, Se you next time in Cancun

  54. Atenea September 11, 2017 at 5:04 pm - Reply

    wow. Gracias Dr Joe Dispenza, This article is really deep and encourages me to continue building my relationship with God , the Divine . Gracias desde el fondo de mi corazón.

  55. Lori Calcinardi September 12, 2017 at 3:00 pm - Reply

    Dr. Joe, I totally agree that many people only seek God in a crisis. Otherwise we (myself included) put other things (responsibilities, entertainment, etc) before taking out time to have a relationship with God.

    However, I do have to say that I take issue with your example of the mother making the sandwich for her child at midnight. You state, “if you were worthy” and if the mother felt that the child was doing all the right things, she would make the sandwich.

    Many of us have deep issues with feelings of unworthiness to begin with. Some of us may have had parents who kept their children in that vicious cycle of always feeling they needed to be worthy of their parents’ love. We shouldn’t have to feel worthy of our parents’ love and we especially shouldn’t feel like we have to be worthy of God’s love. We shouldn’t even feel like we need to be engaged in doing the right things necessarily to receive God’s blessings.

    Yes, I deeply want relationship and intimacy with my Father and spend time everyday seeking to connect with Him. But I would like to feel like I didn’t have to DO anything to be worthy of His relationship and blessings because I’ve felt unworthy my whole life. I want to feel secure that I have access to my Father whether I was worthy or deserving of that access or not.

    I just think adding on the disclaimer that, if we’re doing everything right in terms of seeking a relationship with God and therefore being worthy is dangerous for ppl who struggle with feeling worthy. My mother for example, would not have made the sandwich for me, no matter what I’d done.

  56. Elena September 12, 2017 at 6:18 pm - Reply

    Thank you for clarifying this, it has helped me realize what I did know but didn’t. Now it is present in my consciousness and I’ll have the pleasure to work in this to make it as tangible as anything else in my life.

  57. Maribel Duran September 13, 2017 at 3:02 am - Reply

    Dr Joe,

    I would like to thank you for the words of inspiration, love and wisdom. This is awritten representation of the person that YOU ARE.
    Have a Fantastic Day.

  58. Sal September 13, 2017 at 3:41 am - Reply

    I just love this guy and his simple language that leaves me in awe every time.
    The Oneness in this universe is being created and communicated by loving souls like Dr Joe. I Bow to the teacher in you. 🙏🏻💗

  59. Cathie Lowenbraun September 13, 2017 at 5:02 am - Reply

    As I read this very profound message it whispers back to me surrender and tell the Divine I am honored to be in a relationship with him and I am open,willing to do whatever work to make it develop into a path that teaches and shows love conquers all
    Love you Dr Joe for your knowledge and your heart…… so very grateful to learn from you in a constant state of new

  60. Anita Stinkens-Gremmen September 13, 2017 at 7:02 am - Reply

    The Divine, The 8th Dynamic, God, The Quantum Field, The Universe, Nature, whatever it’s name, it is a Symbol for a Force and Intelligence we look at in awe. To be allowed to have a relationship with “IT” gives Joy and Hapiness, Security and Love. No feeling is greater than that.
    Thank you.

  61. Norma Sanchez September 16, 2017 at 9:42 am - Reply

    Love your article much needed at this time as my son who suffers MS is in hospital. The essence of your message reinforce my believe that I need to continue my faithful meditation till the end of time. May the Lord of the Universe continue blessing Joe and his followers.xoxoxNorma

  62. Matthias September 17, 2017 at 4:32 am - Reply

    “Every relationship is personal, and your relationship with the divine is no different,”…. what a complete bunch of nonsense. There is no such thing as a personal relationship to the diving…. dualistic, new age BS.

  63. lisa Newman September 17, 2017 at 8:46 pm - Reply

    thank you for your eloquence and generosity of thought

  64. annmulgrew September 24, 2017 at 9:14 pm - Reply

    I needed these words. Thanks u so much.

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  66. Bethenia Price October 7, 2017 at 6:59 pm - Reply

    Thank you, Dr. Joe, for ALL you do, and today, for this article, which reminded me to stay in my heaven!! Truly, you are a blessing!!

  67. susanna October 9, 2017 at 7:23 am - Reply

    Every word you say is going straight to my heart.I am so grateful to having the chance to read you, to listen to your guide. You are doing a lot to help us and you are a master in teaching, in opening others’ mind and hearts.Thank you so much dr. Joe.

  68. Sharon Patterson October 21, 2017 at 1:06 pm - Reply

    Thank you Dr. Joe for your amazing work. My inspired thoughts:
    The Divine is not the beliefs I construct in my mind, to then sit on a shelf to admire.
    It’s an ever moving , fluid aliveness that I am allowed to catch glimpses of. It seems to be ever changing but it’s how I see it reflected in the ever changing flow of life.

    It is the power that shapes the beauty of the shifting sands at the oceans edge. It is the gentleness that I recognize in the tiny sparrow that momentarily perches outside my patio door. It is that parking spot manifesting on a crowded day that was given just to demonstrate the impossible doesn’t exist.

    Once a week I drive across the causeway into Miami Beach taking my special needs son to his weekly doctor appointment. I never cease to be delighted to behold the millions of diamonds sparkling on the water in the brilliance of the morning’s sun. And then I am assured that Life is ever present and everything in this moment is unfolding perfectly, as has been designed for my highest good. And I let go and know that I am…….

  69. Yani October 24, 2017 at 6:21 pm - Reply

    Oh Dr Joe your words just bring God right home and complete the symbiosis. This is going to be the start to my every day now until the ultimate fusion occurs which is so imminent I am tingling with enormous love and excitement. Thankyou Bless you Love you.
    One Big Heart.

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