Leaving the Nest

We are all creative geniuses. You may not think of yourself as creative in the traditional sense, but every day you make a choice—consciously or unconsciously—you’re creating your life and the experiences that fill it. While many of these choices are based on familiar past experiences, when we sit down to meditate, our intention is to create a novel future.

Often times, however, when we’re trying to create something new in our life or solve a creative conundrum, we find ourselves coming up against the same walls and obstacles, and no matter what we do, we can’t seem to circumvent or pass through the barrier. The reality of the problem lies in our common thought.


The road well traveled

Imagine for a moment a caravan of covered wagons trailblazing their way across the Wild West. Without roads, they are forced to forge a path through rock and earth. As the lead wagon pushes forward, in its wake it lays down a set of tracks, and every proceeding wagon deepens those tracks.

Whereas the original member of the caravan took the road less traveled, every time a proceeding wagon travels those tracks once formed in mud and clay, now baked by the sun, that wagon is taking the road well traveled. On a microscopic level, this is what our thoughts do in our brains when we become mired in a problem or a consistent way of being—they continuously travel down the most commonly fired and neurologically wired set of thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. In doing so, the repetition of that particular set of thoughts, behaviors, and emotions becomes a hardwired pattern, essentially causing us to biologically become our habits.

This is what I call common thought. Think of it like this—if the brain is the hardware, then that well-formed, well-structured bundle of neural pathways becomes the software program. Like software, common thoughts run in the background, behind the scenes of our awareness, causing us to unconsciously think, act, and/or feel in the same way over and over.

As an example, brushing our teeth, driving our car, or typing on our computer are all things we don’t have to think about doing. They are basically automatic programs that have become common and familiar. By the same token, if you constantly complain about your life, judge others and yourself, feel sorry for yourself, repeatedly believe every thought you tell yourself about your financial situation—and so on and so on—you can see that the same law applies. Those habituations become engrained into your physical, neurochemical state of being causing you to literally become what you think.


The road less traveled

So it makes sense that common thoughts tend to manifest more than a thought you just randomly think. If our brain is a record of the past, when we get locked in these thought patterns, it’s as if this way of being has nested in our brain, and the only way to unseat it is to think, act, or feel differently.

So how do we shift out of that way of being without losing our minds? How do we create that paradigm shift? Here are several ways to leave the nest of common thought. By using these techniques to get outside of the familiar program, new inner experiences create new neural pathways, which cause our brain to begin to make a record of the future, instead of a record of the past.

  • Learn and contemplate new information. By adding new knowledge, we add a new stitch and build a bigger or different nest.
  • Change our energy via chemical and/or emotional adjustments within our inner world.
  • Mentally rehearse new ways of being. This transforms our brain’s neurochemical architecture, priming it to look like the desired outcome has already happened. (To do this requires focus, staying present with our attention, and repetition. Once we do it enough times, the brain changes by thought alone.)
  • Transcendental experiences where we actually find ourselves outside the metaphorical nest and in the unknown. This is moving into our deepest levels of consciousness to reprogram unconscious thoughts, and this is why we meditate.

When inward events or experiences occur with a high enough amplitude of energy, it causes our brain to believe our future has already happened, thereby changing our neuro-circuitry by thought alone. Then the problem or issue that we perceived from the same level of neuro-rigidity can be addressed with a new level of mind, a fresh awareness, and/or a new perception. What we discover in the process is that the answer we sought has always been there—but now we have the mind to see it.



  1. Peter Warringa October 28, 2016 at 3:18 pm - Reply

    As always very inspiring.
    Thanx for sharing.

  2. Kirsten kahle October 28, 2016 at 6:20 pm - Reply

    Great article – I just finished my mind movie all pictures in that movie I took myself -the more you walk the more you learn 🙂

  3. Anna Piggott November 5, 2016 at 7:49 am - Reply

    Very inspiring words.

  4. Scott November 5, 2016 at 10:51 am - Reply

    Well said as I believe fully in the minds ability to change ones present and future physical reality. I need to better learn the process which helps produce change in this way, so signed up and am attending the PA seminar in December. I am so looking forward to to this event after hours of viewing and listening to to lectures and interviews with Dr. Joe Dispenza. As a Reiki Master is three types of Reiki and a Shaman practitioner, I have delved into the unconventional abilities of the human brain and consciousness and established connections in what might be considered the quantum field, so this information presented by Joe D. is very interesting.


  5. Keith Keller November 5, 2016 at 11:06 am - Reply

    The wagon metaphor is wonderful. After four years of this work, I still want to get deeper every day. Thank you for doing what you do.

  6. Ann Hague November 5, 2016 at 11:20 am - Reply

    I was planning a trip to Florida, which would have included hearing Dr. Dispenza speak. Something kept holding me back from finalizing the plans. I had requested the needed days off from work. Contacted friends I wanted to visit. As the time drew closer to the dates for my Florida trip, I continued to feel unsettled. I had lived in Florida for 30 years and had many memories – and a many life changes.
    While I have much gratitude for the incredible friends from Florida, I realized I was continuing to look for my future in the past. An opportunity to attend the International Symposium for Contemplative Studies in California – being held the days that I was off from work. Arrangements fell in to place quickly.
    After reading “Leaving the Nest,” I can again reflect on the importance of looking for my future along the road less traveled, not the frequently traveled, well known paths. Yes, there is comfort in the ” well known” if “comfort” is the objective. If finding life’s messages – leave the nest.

  7. janine November 5, 2016 at 12:06 pm - Reply

    Dear Joe, Beautifully clearly said! Love the metapfor of the wagon, generates a real good Wild West & freedom feeling. I study Buddhist Psychology where the same message of potential transformation is being taught in different terms. Wisdom or intelligence must support our feelings instead of ignorance supporting our emotions. Exactly step nr 1 ‘Learn and contemplate new information’ you mention. Wonderful how the ancient teachings of The Buddha are so up to date with what we discover. THX a lot! Janine http://www.theorangetreefoudantion.com

  8. Maureen Mo Faul November 5, 2016 at 1:06 pm - Reply

    Dr. Joe- since seeing you at the Hay House I can do it in October I have been studying your approach. Your science is exactly what I have been teaching and coaching with my career transformation- Bring Your Soul to Work- essentially the best parts of ourself get “amplified” – literally! I love your work and look forward to seeing you in January!!

  9. Lola Comella November 5, 2016 at 3:48 pm - Reply

    I am so happy I bumped into you, your message, your knowledge. Thank you so much for sharing all this new thinking and infinite possibilites. I am in the process of healing myself from pancreatic cancer, diagnosed 2 years ago. Now I know I can do it myself!! I will continue with my journey, hoping I can attend to one of your workshops one of these days. A big hug from Todos Santos, Baja sur!

  10. David November 5, 2016 at 4:03 pm - Reply

    “Change our energy via chemical and/or emotional adjustments within our inner world.” What is meant by the “chemical” part?

  11. paul heisel November 5, 2016 at 4:34 pm - Reply

    Dear Joe
    Amen to all you say here.Meditation for me has transformed me from a very anxious worrier to a more calm and peaceful man.That said I am still aware of some deep seeded fears that try to raise their ugly head from time to time.Being vigilant of that is so important for me. As soon as I become aware of them I try to change the thought to an affirmation that throws water on the fire of negativity .An attitude of gratitude is so essential for me .Your teaching on gratitude has reaffirmed that for me.I am 78 and feel much younger and my energy levels are higher now than when I was much younger. it is my desire to live like a light bulb.I am looking forward to attending you workshop in Plilly in December it is my first one
    Thanks so much for sharing your knowledge with all those willing to listen

  12. Mistea1 November 5, 2016 at 4:37 pm - Reply

    First comment rejected. Good stuff I used it to get results.

  13. Marc November 5, 2016 at 9:32 pm - Reply

    Hey Joe, loved the book and have been on, then off the bandwagon of meditation and completely dependent on outside forces as I got addicted to negative feelings, horror books and self pity. My whole foundation fell apart but it was built with a lot of fear so I’m glad I had the power to endure that and have a chance to rebuild. I am now back on the bandwagon and really envisioning myself always being in tune with my intuition and my vocation as well as enjoying doing good work, for others not just myself. What I used to meditate on was material abundance now I only seek the power to endure the life I have, stoically, without being affected.

    I really had felt that I’d been infected by an entity and it was spreading in my environment, now I am only taking control of my self development and looking for the lessons in my mistakes. Depression can be cured with presence and I believe sun gazing and music power the spirit too, but you must be aware of the power you’re putting into your spirit because music is a direct connection to the spirit. It’s all colors, music is, clothes are, foods are. I have also found reading scriptures as if they’re psychedelic trip reports and psychedelic trip reports as if they’re scripture (because they are all people who’ve experienced oneness, experienced god) and are bringing back what it’s told them they need to know. I highly recommend watching trip reports to anyone depressed. It gives me faith that humanity is waking up, and people are seeing that the only danger in these substances is the fact they’re illegal, the cops are the crooks, locking people up for something that hurts no one.

  14. rasha November 6, 2016 at 5:53 am - Reply

    Hi Joe, Rasha Here! Love this! Still working on myself since Kuwait but got off track! Need to leave my nest now! So much love and hope to see you again soooon!

  15. Ceidre November 6, 2016 at 10:13 am - Reply

    Actually I was just about to say the same but use The Bble as my mode of Belief. That Science is just now catching up with what the Bible is saying and being one of the oldest books in the world and one which the world unwittingly yields to makes it even more believable especially when studied. “As a man thinketh in his heart so is he”. “Be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind”. God says “For I have come not to give you a spirit of fear but of power, love and a sound mind”. There are so many of these gems and The Bible keeps on telling us to go back ‘to the old paths – the WayMarks’ which are signs of how we should be and the road less travelled which is the road we should take. Amazing – Dr Joes message actually parallels what the Bible has said for a little more than 2000 years now!!

  16. david November 6, 2016 at 11:05 am - Reply

    Janine’s website is http://www.theorangetreefoundation.com where she has her book “Slave to the King” ….. looks like a good read…. Davidc

  17. olga martin November 6, 2016 at 2:26 pm - Reply

    Dear Dr. Joe, I am struggling to change my beliefs in light of my only child’s recent murder. I know a different way to live is possible but a lifetime of abuse and serious brain damage have made my thinking fatalistic as you describe. I want to leave the past and the nest behind and begin to problem solve from a different point of view- forget only problems – i am really hoping to have hope. Do you have a suggestion for helping me take those steps because i have walked away from my former life and am attempting to create a blank slate. Expecting a miracle and thanking you in advance!

  18. Suzanne Atwell November 8, 2016 at 12:06 pm - Reply

    Love your work, love your words Dr Joe. Attended Sunshine Coast and now in India learning traditional methods. You truly are the future. Thank you for your genius and commitment to the world.

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